Sunday, 14 December 2014

Interview: Omotola Talks About Her Marriage "I have been tempted many times to cheat on my husband"

Omotola Jalade Ekeinde is one Nollywood actress who has made a name for herself in positive ways and without a single scandal.

The Nollywood queen has been a role model for many through her career, her ambition and her marriage.

Chatting with Vanguard Newspaper however, Omotola revealed that having been married for 18 years; she has had to work hard at her marriage to keep it strong.

Read excerpts from her interview below:

On the success of her marriage: I have been favored by the Lord. I am truly blessed to have been married to one-of-a-kind husband who appreciates what I do, encourages me to excel in my craft. Let me tell you this: I take my marriage very seriously. If you treat your marriage with levity and careless abandon, you will reap the reward for such bad behavior. My husband is an angel, brought by God to my life, and it has been a blessing having him as my husband.

On receiving gifts from men who admire her: Sure, I have received lots of goodies from my male admirers. I do not give anything in return. I always tell them that I am married and would not compromise my martial vows. If after making that point clear, they still continue to shower me with gifts, maybe believing that something will break in the future then I cannot help them.

On if she faces temptations while being married: Absolutely. I have been tempted many times to cheat on my husband by men I really liked. But when you think of what you stand to lose, the destruction of all you have labored to build, when you weigh all the options, you are left to conclude that it is not worth the trouble. I know some women will find this somewhat objectionable, but if they want to be truthful to themselves, they will agree with me that, as married women, we have all faced moments that I have just described.

On if her marriage has cooled over time: Of course, it has. Which married woman who has been with her husband for years will, in her true state, tell you that the feeling has remained the same as it was the first time or the first year she met her husband? It is bound to cool off. What I recommend to women is what I call “temporary separation”. You will make yourself unavailable to your husband. Go somewhere – go on vacation with your friends, do something bold, lose weight, look different and, after weeks, come home, looking drop dead gorgeous, and I bet you, the fire of passion will be mightily rekindled and you  will feel brand new again. I have applied this principle in my marriage and it has worked wonders.